Learn : How to Improve Social skills as an Introvert (10 easy tips)
"Hey, I hate talking to people", this is what I used to say when I was obsessed with my introverted nature
But now ...
Things have changed !!!
After learning "how to improve social skills as an introvert", my social life has improved a lot more than I had imagined
And believe me, your Social life can improve too especially if you are an introvert like me
Here is how you can improve your social skills too being an introvert
Let's dive in right now :
(1) UNDERSTANDING THE IMPORTANCE OF SOCIALISING
Let's first accept the fact that our schools and colleges don't teach us NECESSARY skills
Those necessary skills are :
• Farming
• Cooking
• Self-defence
• Swimming
• Social skills
Social skills help us to express ourselves to the society and form a deeper connection
I know that you are an introvert, who loves to spend your time alone pursuing your hobbies and interests
Socializing with people is what you hate the most because it drains your energy
But understand one important thing now that
We humans are emotional as well as a social creature
You cannot grow in life until you socialize with people (doesn't matter if you are an introvert or a shy person)
Mark Zuckerberg, JK Rowling, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Keanu Reeves, Nikola Tesla, and William Shakesphere are introverts who accomplished huge success in life by socializing with people
(2) READING PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT BOOKS
Reading Books is the best time investment in the life
Similarly, Investing in yourself is the best money investment in the life
Reading Self-development books helps you improve your personal as well as social aspects of life
And I know you love reading books because Introverts love gathering knowledge as much as possible
You gather knowledge because you make yourself ready for unknown situations in life
That's Great !!!
Here is the list of most helpful personality development books which also helps you to improve your social game :
• How to win friends and influence people (by Dale Carnegie)
• Think and Grow Rich (by Napoleon Hill)
• The 48 laws of Power (by Robert Greene)
You will love them because they are FUN to read and practical as well
(3) LEARNING THE ART OF EXPRESSING YOURSELF
You are full of extraordinary ideas but people will never know because you never talked about them
You have more than 5 skills but you never expressed them
Being an introvert, you are naturally good at understanding the emotions and body language of others but they don't about this
Because you NEVER express yourself to them
I realized that people won't understand me and my feelings until I express them to them
So how to express yourself and your feelings to people ??
• First of all, start writing your ideas and feelings in your journal or diary
(By journaling your ideas you will realize your potential)
• Show your Facial expressions when talking about certain "emotions" without being shy
• Use your hand gestures when explaining your ideas
• Adjust your voice pitch, tone, and volume when expressing certain feelings like sadness, surprise, happiness, and excitement
• Make your ideas visible to others by using the technique of visualization; ask them to visualize what you are saying to them
(4) REALISING YOUR POTENTIAL
This marketing world is very good at making people feel insecure about themselves and making money out of it
They will tell you how you are imperfect in this society and use their products to eliminate those imperfections
That's Bullshit !!!
Nobody is perfect in this world and has certain imperfections
And that imperfections are what makes them so beautiful and unique
Even perfect looking people like Brad Pitt, Dwayne Johnson, Marilyn Monroe, Tom Cruise, Robert Downey Jr, and Angelina Jolie have certain imperfections
Ignoring those imperfections, what you must do in this very short life is - Realise your Potential
Realize your potential and use it to contribute to this suffering Humanity and the Earth
Here is how you can realize your Potential :
• Find out what is your MBTI personality type is by using MBTI Personality Test
• Find out that "Work" to which you can devote your whole life into
• Leave your Comfort zone and explore the world
• Take Challenges as much as possible
• Push yourself to accomplish difficult tasks
• Know your Strengths and Weaknesses
• Eliminate your fear and weaknesses by fighting against them
(5) ULTIMATE PURPOSE OF LIFE
Imagine your childhood days when you were so happy
How small you were?
Your first day of school?
That year you passed your High School?
Your first day of College?
Your first job?
See how time flew so FAST !!!
This is what I am saying to you - Life is SHORT
You know what is the most serious as well as funny thing ?
99% of people don't know what is their purpose in life
All they will say is they just want to earn money and enjoy life in retirement
They even don't what is the REAL purpose of Life
Why they are born on this planet for?
What they are supposed to do with this life?
Do YOU know your purpose in life?
Yes, it may be earning money or traveling the world or something more
But do you know what is the ACTUAL purpose of Life?
That is ...
(1) Realising your Full Potential
(2) Contributing to the Humanity
(3) Finding the Truth (God)
(6) LEARNING HOW THE MIND WORKS
We, Humans, are slaves of our habits, emotions, and mind
When uncontrolled, mind is the most powerful enemy
But when controlled, it is the best weapon for you
Our mind thinks in mental images and is unaware of Reality
It works either logically or emotionally
You and your enemy are slaves of your mind, emotions, and habits
This means you learn how the mind works then you can easily control your actions
And ...
Can deal with bullies and toxic people as well
One who conquers the mind can achieve extraordinary things in life
The Great "Bhagwad Geeta" says,
"Controlling the mind is a very difficult task but still you can control it by practicing the art of Detachment and Repetition :
(1) Mind should be fixed on the Self alone and should think of nothing else.” Bhagavad Gita 6.25
(2) Wherever the mind wanders due to its flickering and unsteady nature, one must certainly withdraw it and bring it back under the control of the Self.” Bhagavad Gita 6.26
(7) THE DRIVING FORCE BEHIND HUMAN ACTIONS
As I said above that we humans are SLAVE of our habits, emotions, and mind
We act out of fear or excitement
We act as we have conditioned ourselves to do in such situations
Remember that "Fight or Flight" response
So what is the driving force behind our actions ??
These driving forces are
• Emotions
• Habits
Get mastery over them and you will make your actions flawless and progressive
Here is how you can master your emotions and habits :
• Understanding your emotions that they are temporary and should let them go
• Habits are not God-made they are our creations and can be changed into Good ones
(8) LEARNING THE ART OF PERSUASION
Persuasion means making people believe in whatever you are saying to them
Politicians, Businessmen, and Spiritual masters have Great Persuasion skills
Persuasion helps you to win people's trust
Great Storytellers like Walt Disney and Steven Spielberg have Great Persuasive skills as well as effective communication skills
The easiest way to persuade people is by using more persuasive words in your verbal communication
The most persuasive words are:
• You
• Get
• Save
• Guaranteed
• Save
• Safe
• Easy
• Proven
• Grow
• Fast
• Free
• Big
• Discover
• Can
• Bonus
• Expert
(9) THE ART OF SEDUCTION
You are Human but you still have that "Monkey Gene" imbibed in your DNA
You still show the instincts and behavior of monkeys in life situations
Monkeys gather food, find a sex partner and protect family
This is exactly what you are doing but in a superior way
Take a look here :
(1) You go to a job to earn money for food
(2) You find a sex partner for childbearing like monkeys do
(3) You claim Health and Life insurance to protect your Family
To Talk about seduction, it is the most important skill for finding a potential partner
Seduction is an art you can learn by practice
Only a few people on Earth know the art of Seduction since it involves approaching females which many people are afraid of
Seduction helps you improve your communication skills, the art of expressing your emotions and understanding others' perspectives
Approaching women, starting an interesting conversation, spending a good time together, and marrying if both are agreed- are the process of seduction
The best book to learn the art of Seduction is :
(10) THE ART OF STORYTELLING
You love Stories. Right ??
Even I love Stories
Everybody loves Stories
Why ??
Because stories easily connects us
Stories have a wide range of emotions
It gives us an "emotional rollercoaster"
In one scene we get happy and in another one, we get sad or scared or excited, that's the power of Stories
And Storytelling gives you this power of "making people like you"
Hooks, pauses, and voice tone-pitch are the core elements of storytelling
To become a Good storyteller, learn the art of using attention-grabbing hooks, strong pauses, and animated voice tone-pitch
(Bonus tip) : USE THE "VAKOG" MODEL
Have you observed that some people have better Observation skills than others and some have better listening skills
While some have a better "Taste" sense and some have a better sense of "Feeling"
Why ??
The reason is their Dominant Sensory System
You have one sense (out of 5 senses) that is most active than the other 4 - visual, auditory, feel, olfactory or taste
That's called Dominant Sensory System
Do you what is the GOOD NEWS here ??
You can use this to your advantage using the VAKOG model based on this theory
For a person with STRONG Visual-sense, use Visual words such as :
• See
• Look
• Imagine
• Show
• Visualise
• View
• Watch
For a person with STRONG Auditory-sense, use Auditory words such as :
• Hear
• Listen
• Sound
• Loud
• Resonate
• Tune in
For a person with STRONG Olfactory-sense, use Olfactory words such as :
• Smell
• Sniff
• Snort
• Stinks
For a person with STRONG Gustatory sense, use Gustatory words such as :
• Taste
• Chew
• Bite
• Mouth-watering
• Juicy
• Sweet
• Sour
• Flavour
For a person with STRONG Kinesthetic-sense, use Kinesthetic words such as :
• Feel
• Grasp
• Touch
• Hold
• Grab
• Hard
• Soft
• Solid
• Heavy
So these are your 10 tips on how to improve social skills as an introvert
Let's hear from YOU, "which tip you are willing to try to improve your social game ?"
Share your comment in the "comment box" below
Thanks for reading !!!
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